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3 ways you can stay friends with your ex

There’s always a chance you might be able to turn that failed relationship into something positive. Here are some.

1.Let time heals all wounds

It sounds like a cliché, but time really is a great healer. If you really do have your heart set on being friends again, you need to wait. However much you want to be friends with your ex, if you’ve only just broken up, you need to have a cooling off period. Feelings cannot be turned off like a light switch – whether those feelings are ones of love or anger, they need time to help bring them into perspective.

And when we say back off, we mean completely. No calls, no texts, no emails etc.. This time will allow you both to gain some perspective on the relationship. It will also allow you the time to explore the idea of a new relationship.

2.Meet carefully

The most important thing to remember is that sometimes attraction never dies. Let’s say you’ve had your cooling off period, and it still seems a good idea to cultivate a friendship with your ex – where do you go?

With that in mind, you need to choose your meeting venue and activity carefully. For example, dinner and drinks alone is probably a very bad idea – a few too many glasses of wine and you could end up right back where you started. However, mid-morning coffee or meeting with mutual friends is much lower risk. Rules of thumb are keep it alcohol-free and keep it in the daytime if possible.

3.Friendship is friendship, no more than that.

Having intimate conversations about your personal lives, being in constant contact and exhibiting close body language are all things that need to go out the window. If there are certain restaurants, bars, museums etc. you used to visit together, you should avoid these places. Anywhere that’s going to spark a feeling of reminiscing should be off the list. Anything that you think opposite sex friends would avoid doing or be uncomfortable doing, is out of bounds. Especially if you’re now in relationships with other people – you need to establish new boundaries. 

And, if you find yourself hiding details about your new friendship from your other friends or current partner alarm bells should be ringing. Can you really be friends? If yes, then you must not hide it to your present relationship.

These are just few and simple ways to be really friends again with your ex. And if you can do this with pure heart, you’ll surely create a positive result.

Reference: lovedecoded
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