If the person wants to commit and take things further, it’s all gravy. But, what happens if the other person is hesitant or unwilling to pursue a relationship? In most situations, a partner that’s disinterested will just reject you and tell you that they aren’t going to commit.

Then there are some people who will agree to “sort of date” and string that person along until they find someone better.  Once you know the signs to watch out for, it’s easy enough to determine whether or not you need to cut your losses.

Your partner refuses to discuss marriage or give you a concrete date.

A person who wants to commit will commit, even if it’s not actually easy for them to do so. A person who doesn’t want to commit but wants to reap the rewards of a relationship will claim to want to commit, but won’t actually make any moves in that direction.

Finding out whether or not your partner is willing to marry you starts with actually sitting them down to talk about it. If your partner constantly skirts the issue or gets defensive, they are telling you that they don’t want to commit to you – not now, not ever.

Either you or your partner are still keeping an eye out for a better option.

This is tragically common thanks to the modern ailment known as “Fear Of Missing Out,” or FOMO. A person who believes that there will be someone better around the corner typically won’t commit because they’re stuck holding out for a person who will never come.

The most obvious insult is that the partner you’re with doesn’t think you’re “good enough” to commit to and that they can do better. To make matters worse, they’re choosing an imaginary, potential person over you. If you notice this problem in your relationship, you need to get leave.

Your partner constantly places their overbearing and opinionated family above you as a priority.

When someone is serious about commitment, they will place their partner on equal footing with their family. The reasoning behind why guys do this is that you will eventually be their wife and start a family with them.

If a guy regularly makes a point to explain that their family’s opinions come first and that they have a priority to make their family happy, your relationship is bound to be an uphill battle.

Dealing with a guy who says this means that their family won’t approve of the relationship regardless of what you do, and will try to pull the two of you apart. Since your partner already told you that they’re going to choose their “real family” over you, you already know what will happen.

It no longer feels like love.

If you’ve been in a very long term relationship, then you probably know how that “honeymoon love” often will morph into a comforting, happy love that makes you feel like you’re at home with the person. This isn’t what we’re talking about.

A relationship that no longer feels like love is one that feels more like glorified roommates – or worse. It’s icy or otherwise just never as intimate as it once used to be.

These kinds of relationship vibes aren’t fun, nor are they an indicator that things will get better. People who are in relationships that feel this way often know that the only place they’re headed with that person is Splitsville.

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Your partner never discusses future plans that include you.

Whether people want to admit it or not, their attitudes towards people often will come out, even if they don’t say it outright. If a guy eventually plans on dumping you, you will often know his intentions because he may end up telling you future plans that don’t include you in them.

For example, if he’s talking about his plans to move to Tokyo and travel the world without mentioning how you’d fit into the equation, it’s a sign that he doesn’t want you there. If he regularly talks about how he’s going to want kids one day and you want to be childfree, your relationship has an expiration date that he knows about.

It no longer feels like love.

If you’ve been in a very long term relationship, then you probably know how that “honeymoon love” often will morph into a comforting, happy love that makes you feel like you’re at home with the person. This isn’t what we’re talking about.

A relationship that no longer feels like love is one that feels more like glorified roommates – or worse. It’s icy or otherwise just never as intimate as it once used to be.

These kinds of relationship vibes aren’t fun, nor are they an indicator that things will get better. People who are in relationships that feel this way often know that the only place they’re headed with that person is Splitsville.

It’s been years and he hasn’t bothered trying to talk marriage.

The average engagement happens a year into a couple’s relationship, with a typical marriage beginning around two years in. If you two have been together five or six years without any word of marriage, chances are astronomically high that you’re being taken for a ride.

Though there are couples who tie the knot after 5-plus years, if he knows how you feel about marriage, there’s no reason he should force you to wait that long. Your best bet is to look for someone who’s ready to settle down.

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You feel like you’re being used.

Generally speaking, a person knows when they’re being taken advantage of, even if they don’t like to admit it. Most people also are aware when they’re taking advantage of a person or a situation – but the vast majority won’t ever admit to that, either.

If you are sticking around in hopes that he’ll change or commit, then chances are high that you may feel like he’s taking advantage of the fact that you won’t leave him. Similarly, if a guy is taking advantage of the fact that you won’t break things off with him, he’ll also push to maintain the status quo of you not leaving while he avoids commitment.

If you feel like he’s using you as a placeholder or are feeling like you’re not getting what you’re asking for in a relationship, chances are that you’re right.

You feel like you’re walking on eggshells around him because any mistake you do will push him away.

Most of the time, when this happens, it’s an indicator that the relationship’s dynamics are very badly unbalanced. You should never feel like you need to jump through a million hoops in order to remain “commitment-worthy” to a person.

This kind of tension doesn’t typically happen unless the goals of the two partners are very different. In this case, it tends to indicate that he either wants to control you or wants to leave you, while you either want to control him or marry him.

These signs are strong indicators that the relationship you’re in will go nowhere, or that you’re being strung along.